Have you ever wondered why people say that when a man and a woman have sex they become one?

Yesterday, @RickWarren tweeted this: Sex is far more than a physical connection.You give yourself.Tell teens they don’t make a condom to protect your heart. This was so amazing to me that I retweeted him and got some interesting responses. BUT…the one that stuck out to me the most was one from one of my old high school teachers. A friend said “but if you both are doing it for fun…there’s no heart to protect.” this is when my teacher wrote “Girls don’t know how to have sex without involving their heart.” I wonder if this statement was true.

Can girls not have sex without connecting themselves emotionally to the act?  What do you think? I came to the realization that it depends how the decision is made. If someone has been drinking or under the influence of any other drug, I feel like it would be different. But then again, I have no idea.

Today in my Advertising class we were discussing the focus of sex that the media has and how they target teens from the age ranges of 12-17. I understand that this generation is very aware and attracted to sex and all that it represents, but I am also annoyed at how people who choose not to have sex are mocked.

In my class the “Jonas Brothers” were mentioned along with the purity rings that they wear, and how they have been mocked in person, on shows, and in cartoons for the decision that they have made. THIS is not RIGHT! Kids should not be encouraged to have sex and discouraged to not have sex. Sex is an emotional connections and a serious decision. There are so many consequences to sex that people never think about.

I made the decision to save sex for my wedding night when I was 16 years old and like many teenagers it was a struggle. Moving away to college was not easy either. Sex was all around me from the moment I stepped into the dorms and woke up at 4am to the sound of my roommate and her boyfriend. It was not fun, but the worst part about it is that people assume that sex is what HAS to be done. You do not have to have sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend to keep the relationship going, if anything NOT having sex creates a stronger connection between the two of you and if you plan on marrying that person it just makes your wedding night that much more SPECIAL! I am not judging anyone who decides to have sex, but instead sharing my own decision to save sex and allowing people to see that it is possible and it is not something to JOKE about. Why is it a JOKE for me to save sex and it is NOT a JOKE for someone to sleep with multiple partners without even thinking about the consequences?

I would also like to challenge those who have already had sex, to see how it would change a relationship if you decided to not have sex anymore. I do believe that through time, if it is real love, the fact that you waited for that person will just make that moment after your wedding that much more special. Remembering that you waited for EACHOTHER until that moment means that the love you had for one another was stronger than the temptations that come with sex.

I am blessed to be a part of a youth dance and drama program that allows teenagers to see that there is ANOTHER way. This way is making the decision NOT to have sex. There is a line in the play that says “I’m not saying sex is bad…SEX IS GOOD!” I believe that sex is God’s little way of saying, “Hey, I’m going to give you a way to connect with a person in a level unlike any other and enjoy it” but I also believe that the ultimate way to enjoy it is with that ONE person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. It is possible. I have heard amazing stories and can’t wait to share mine.

Do you have a story?

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